One of the hardest things in the world for me is to ask for help. It’s not necessarily a vulnerability thing for me, as I’m sure it is for some. I’m ok with admitting that I don’t know how to do something most of the time. Not always, but most of the time. For me, I don’t want to feel like a burden on others. I don’t want to add to someone else’s load. I know that everyone has a lot on their plates, and I don’t want to add that one pea that sends everything crashing down for someone. I’ve learned, though, that the longer I go without asking, not only the harder it is to ask, but also, the bigger the problem becomes.
Whatever it is that I deal with, and whatever situations come up, I have learned that I am not the only person having those problems. Talking about them with people, reaching out to someone, not only helps me, but also a lot of times helps the person I’m talking to. They usually have some situation they can compare it to, and by knowing that you’re not alone and that you have someone to sit in it with helps lighten the load considerably. Whatever it is that you’re feeling, know that you’re not alone, first off.
It also helps to find someone you know you can talk through things without them trying to fix you or your problem. This year, I reached a point where I was feeling very alone. I had changed so much that the people I had connected with were no longer able to relate to me. There’s nothing wrong with it. We just ebb and flow in relationships as we go through changes in our lives. Regardless, I was at a transitional place where I didn’t have a lot of deep, meaningful relationships, and I started to say prayers for friends who I could relate with and have joyful, loving interactions with.
Not long after I first said that prayer, I met an amazing woman who has become a staple in my life. We check in on each other almost daily, and I love her dearly. Since then, I’ve had several other amazing women come into my life who I love being around and our interactions are always heartfelt and loving and provide exactly what I was looking for, and I found out recently that I do the same for them. I also have a handful of relationships that stand the test of time. No matter what changes I make, they are there. I can call or text them with anything and they totally get it! All of these people get me without judgement, and that’s important to me right now.
Before I had these types of relationships where I felt comfortable being vulnerable, though, I had other outlets that helped me with my struggles. I saw a really amazing therapist, Michelle Chalfant, for a long time who first helped me relate with my inner child. After she helped me open up, I found a Sister Circle led by Kim Salter, where I was able to open up even more when the talking stick was passed my way. Seeing myself and the difficulties I was facing in all of those beautiful, amazing, strong women in the circle helped me beyond belief. Kim introduced me to Marin Bach-Antonson, who first taught me self-love through one of her offerings and now is leading the Priestess Initiation program I’m participating in, where I have met more amazing, strong, kind, compassionate women.
All this to say, there are so many people out there who want to help. As we heal ourselves, we reach out to help those who are going through what we have been through. It’s only natural to show the same kindness to others that was shown to us. So, whatever it is that you’re going through, reach out to someone in your life for help. It may be a sister, a mother, a grandmother, a teacher, a friend, a partner, a lover – whoever it is, explain to them what you’re going through. Ask them for help with whatever it is that you need. If you’re not sure that you have someone, ask God to send you someone who can help. Ask God to show you someone who can help you with whatever it is that you’re going through. Ask from that place of innocence, that inner child crying for help from its mother. Ask from the heart, and you will receive whatever it is that you need.
God is always there for us, even if it doesn’t seem like it at the time. We are surrounded by so many angels, ascended masters, and guides that we are never alone, no matter what we’re going through. They are helping and guiding us in every interaction and every decision we make. If it doesn’t seem like that, we just have to ask. I know that I am loved beyond belief, and I know that you are, too. There was a time I didn’t know that, though, so if you need a reminder, just let me know. I have been blessed to have a lot of people show me the way back to my heart, so I’m happy to be that person for you. All you have to do is ask!
Thank you for joining me on this adventure, and I’m so grateful that I can share these tools with you that I’ve learned. I hope they help you as much as they’ve helped me in my lifetime!
I bless you with the peace and ease you need in this holiday season.